
I write so many posts, all about one specific topic usually. But often, conversations bounce between 20 different things in one sitting. Today, I just want to release some random thoughts I’ve had, kind of like we’re having our own little conversation somewhere in the world. Will you join me?
- IT’S PI DAY!! I just realized this. 🙂 What’s your favorite kind of pie? Mine is pumpkin!
- I really like being alone. I can go days without seeing many people and not even realize it. It’s not that I don’t enjoy other people’s company — I really, truly love being around others, too. I guess being alone just isn’t something that sticks out to me. It is also really interesting to me that there are people who crave to be around others constantly. I can’t imagine what that would feel like.
- On a similar note, I find that I am happiest when I am with friends. I’m happy by myself, but I’m super DUPER happy when I’m with people I love.
- I’m going camping in Yosemite National Park in a couple weeks. A couple weeks after that I am going to Coachella, a huge music festival in California. I am so excited!!
- I can be reserved at times. I know when a friendship has reached a new level of importance to me by the sheer fact that I am suddenly blabbering about my private life. Or anything, really.
- I am unflaggingly optimistic. If something bad is happening, I immediately assume the best-case scenario is about to unfold. It’s very hard, if not impossible, for me to assume the worst. There is either good or growth in everything.
- I daydream a lot. Sometimes I stay in bed a little later because I’m daydreaming about something and don’t feel like snapping back to reality yet. I used to think that our daydreams were just another realm of our souls — as real as the physical world we live in. Do you daydream often?
- I have had some sort of acne since elementary school. If there was plastic surgery to permanently get rid of acne, I’d do it.
- I completely suck at non-physical communication with friends and family — returning emails, texts, facebook messages, you name it. I will read them, be affected by them, formulate a response in my head, and then not respond for a month. Or ever. I have met so many other people who do the same damn thing that I feel like we all must have some undiscovered mental disability. Or at least something in our personality type that makes us all have this problem, no?
- It angers me how some people can lack compassion toward animals. I remember in college, someone in my Facebook feed (I don’t even remember who), posted a status that said, “A stupid fucking raccoon ran in front of my car and broke my headlight!” “Stupid fucking raccoon” was in all caps, to emphasize how ridiculous it was for an animal to have died while breaking a headlight that might cost her a few dollars to replace. It sounds silly to remember that and to bring it up now, but it moved me in a way I will never forget. It reminded me that there are people so disconnected from the natural world that taking the life of another creature is a burden to them. It’s just really hard for me to wrap my mind around.
- I go through weird shopping phases where I don’t care about buying clothes for a few months and then all of a sudden I want EVERYTHING EVER MADE. Like this and this and this.
- I love LOVE blogging. But sometimes when something serious happens in my life and I later go on Twitter or Facebook and see sponsored tweets about cereal or Buzzfeed quizzes about which Hunger Games character I am, all I can think is, what’s the point of all this?
- I used to ask myself that last question a lot, just in general. My personality is the type that needs to find meaning in all things. I guess the smartest conclusion I’ve drawn is that there really is no concrete point. To anything. You just have to create your own meaning.
- I love insects. Pretty much any living thing on the planet…I love it. (Coffee beans were alive once, too, right?) 😉
- I remember in a religion class in college, my professor said that in Buddhism (I think), if you were a bad person, you are reincarnated into something lesser, like a plant or a bumble bee. That idea confused me, as I’ve always felt like plants and insects were on a higher level than humans.
- I am honestly really excited to get married one day. haha I don’t even have a boyfriend! I just really love having people to take care of. This feeling may have started after getting a dog. It literally thrills me to take care of him everyday. It gives my life a kind of meaning that I could never give it on my own.
- I also wonder if blogging has skewed my perception of what I want. It feels to me like bloggers tend to be married, have a dog, maybe a kid or three, and own their own home. I find myself wanting all of these things at different times, completely out of the blue, and I can only assume that being around so many other bloggers is the reason.
- I’m planning to take Monja to a dog park today. It’ll be the first time we’ve been back since his weird issues a couple months ago. I’m a little nervous, but I honestly think most of it is in my head.
- I hope you have a nice weekend where you feel loved and happy and free. I really do.
That’s enough stream-of-consciousness for today, don’tcha think? 🙂 Maybe I’ll do this again one day…it was pretty fun! Have a great one, everybody!
Now, say hullo to my leetle friends, or, uh, sponsors. 😉
Jenn of Near and Far Montana

You may remember Jenn as she’s been featured here a bunch of times! She’s a world-traveler with her heart in Montana. But don’t take it from me, you can learn all about this pretty little lady right here. You can learn even more about her in this sweet post with 14 things she loves. She mixes up her posts to include a sweet variety of content. Here’s a great “cheers to the ladies” and this post about “the life we imagined” is something I think a lot of us can relate to. By the way, she has baby chickens. If there was ever a reason to follow her blog, I think it’s that. 😉 Now go say hi! Jenn is a sweetheart — you’ll fit right in. 🙂
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Alix of Alix Hamilton

Alix is another awesome little lady who has been featured here countless times. Like Jenn, she also has a variety of things she posts about, but you can always count on her for dee-licious recipes, like these chocolate hazelnut cookies or this roast pumpkin and couscous salad. Holy yum. Besides being a whiz in the kitchen, she also has the travel bug. I love these photos of the Italian countryside (so much different than the Japanese countryside I lived in!). She’s even planing a trip to Singapore right now! Have you been? And if you like purdy pictures, you should probably check out her Instagram, too. She’s got lots of those!
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I love reading these real, unthemed posts, just straight from the heart. My absolute favourite kind of post.
You help more people than you probably realize Melyssa: I like to spend time by myself as well, but always feared that it may be strange or anti-social or something. Knowing that there are like-minded people out there like you has changed my perspective! I now feel that it’s okay and not weird.
Probably a weird fear to have had in the first place, but it’s gone now!
That makes me SO happy, Miriam! I’m glad my love of alone time could make you feel more comfortable with yours. 🙂 Have a beautiful day!
Are you, by any chance, an INFJ? Just wondering because we have quite a lot in common. 🙂
Yes I am! And that makes me totally happy that you are too AND that you could tell just by reading this post. 🙂
I actually wrote all about my INFJ-ness here, if you’re interested: https://melyssagriffin.com/2013/09/infj/ 🙂
I loved this so much! So authentic and honest, thank you for sharing.
And we’re so similar: points 2, 5, 7, and 9 are EXACTLY me! Although I do hate bugs (give me the creeps!), and I always tend to expect the worst-case scenario.. I need some of your positivity to rub off on me. I hope you have the most wonderfully amazing weekend as well! <3
Oh I love that we have so many in common! That makes me happy. 🙂
I forget how similar our personalities are (INFJ!), but I’m with you on needing meaning in blogging. And feeling like all the other bloggers are married with dogs kids and houses (and are super-pretty and put-together and always wear J Crew). I’ve actually been thinking a lot lately about whether blogging promotes consumerism (my conclusion: it doesn’t have to, and that is why I infuse my blog with meaning). I want in on all the makeup, clothes, fancy vacations, beautiful homes too. But then I remember where my path has been, and realize that if I had those things, I would not have had some of my unique stories. There’s still time for the domestic path, if that is in the cards.
Thank you for this reassurance, Rachel! I completely agree with you! I’ve thought about whether blogging promotes consumerism, too, and while I think it does, I like your answer a bit better. I feel like I enjoy blogging so much because like you, I try to infuse my blog with meaning, and if it has meaning then it will always be precious to me.
i’ve been thinking about the meaning of blogging a lot lately too. but that’s why it’s so awesome that there’s so many blogs to choose from. no matter what mood you’re in or your views on blogging, there’s always going to be one that fits your style ; ) oh and i’m the same way with shopping. i didn’t shop much in korea (at least i don’t feel like i did) and i was content but then i got back home and it’s all OMGEE you have my size!!!
hahah I KNOW RIGHT! Especially shoes…I could only wear ONE specific shoe in Japan, but here I can wear almost anything. AMAZING.
I feel the same way about shopping, luckily it is just to expensive here so I am saving all that money I would be blowing on clothes.
Well that’s a blessing in disguise! Where do you live?
I just moved to Iceland this winter and shopping for clothes just doesn’t happen here, way to expensive!
What a lovely post! Isn’t it fun to just let whatever is in your mind just seep out in a swirl of questions ans thoughts? I’m a total daydreamer too. I’ll find myself at work daydreaming and will have to remind myself where I am. I totally agree about the ‘blogger lifestyle’ thing. More often than not a lot of bloggers are married with kids and perfect houses. Maybe all of us should start a blogging revolution and show the other side of things. Everyone can hashtag their pictures #theotherbloggerlife or #bloggerrevolution ha! 🙂
haha I love those hashtags! I can take pleeenty of pictures of my overflowing trash can and forever fur-infested carpet. 😉
I am the exact same way as you when it comes to needing alone time and having a great time in my own company, but then again LOVING being around my friends. People usually don’t believe me when I say I’m an introvert because I’m such an outgoing and social person, but it’s true. I get exhausted just thinking about people who need to be around others all the time. I just do not get it – how is it possible?
(Love this whole post, btw!) 🙂
Yeah!! My friends sometimes tell me that they don’t believe I’m an introvert either. Are you an INFJ? I feel like I remember you saying you are. That’s one of our big traits! Appearing extroverted, but actually being very introverted. 🙂
I’m the same way with needing alone time (ahem… like right now for instance, haha!) I always think I just need more time alone than the average person and am especially hermit-like in the Winter 🙂
Same heeeere! Glad I’m not alone…on liking being…alone. 😉
Isn’t it so weird??? I love love love my independence and alone time. I’m going through a transition right now moving back home from being on my own for most of my twenties, and living with my grandpa and mom. Yet, at the same time, I am just like you in having a husband to love and care for – yet independence, lol! Women. 🙂
haha ain’t it the truth! Being fiercely independent and also wanting to be super domestic are just two odd traits to have. But we rock it though. 😉
Okay, two commenters have already mentioned the Meyers-Briggs INFJ personality profile — I was going to ask the same thing! Seems like a lot of your readers are INFJs, which is great, since it’s the rarest type 🙂 I also enjoy being alone AND being with loved ones, daydreaming, nature, etc!
Also, I have a boyfriend and we just adopted a dog, but I’m not a homeowner nor do I “have my life together.” It’s a great life, but I don’t have all the “boxes checked,” as it were! I’m also not much of a blogger yet, though. 🙂
I hope you had a great time at the dog park with Monja!
Yes I am an INFJ!! 🙂 GO US! I actually wrote a post about it before and there are tons of INFJs around these parts — love it! (Here’s the post if you’re interested: https://melyssagriffin.com/2013/09/infj/)
Glad we can connect on so many things, simone. 🙂
This was actually really fun to read. 🙂 I think it’s beautiful how optimistic you are; that’s the way to live! And I love how you believe plants and insects are on a higher level than humans, because I so agree with that. Hope you have an incredible time at Yosemite!
I love that you agree that plants and insects are on a higher level! It’s rare to find other people who do, so I appreciate that about you! 🙂
I wish I was going to Coachella this year! Outkast is performing! If you like them, please share pics!! Camping and Coachella are on my 30 before 30 list. Have fun!! I really enjoyed this post! I too find myself wanting things that I’ve seen other bloggers have or accomplish-but I think that comes along with the use of social media. So easy to get caught up in other peoples worlds! I just try to focus on what I want for myself and go from there.
Yeah I definitely have to see Outkast!!
And I love that line, “So easy to get caught up in other people’s worlds.” SO true! I never really thought of it as everyone being in their own world, but that makes total sense. Thanks Keiz!
I don’t understand when people can’t be alone either. I feel there’s a big difference in wanting others around you, and needing someone there constantly. Maybe some people equate being alone to failing, in some weird way. Have fun in Yosemite and Coachella! 🙂
Interesting analogy! I’m not too sure — I think it has to do with our energy and how it’s created. Like photosynthesis, but for people. hahah 🙂
I definitely think that blogging can change our perspective on life. I’ve been taking some time recently to remind myself of the things that were important to me first and the things that seem important based on the blogs I’ve been reading. It’s been an interesting journey – learning to blog – and I’ve grown a ton. But there are some things that I was never really interested in pre-blogging that feel really important some days, and I’m just trying to figure out how important they actually are and how important are they because the majority of blogs I read seem to say they are. It’s not always easy!
That is SO true and a great point. I think I just need to remind myself more often what was important to me before getting into the blog world. Sometimes I feel slightly disconnected from my friends, too, because blogging has made me interested in these random things that I don’t actually care about deep down. Time to do some soul searching! 🙂
So I sometimes wonder if I’m doing everything wrong that our home renovation project is something of a mess ALL the time, that I hardly ever match or look cute while doing home renovation, never have time for clever crafty projects and I can’t pick paint colors or a kitchen design to save my life, and then I take a minute and think, this is REAL LIFE!
I can’t wait to live vicariously when you go to Yosemite, it’s definitely on my must-see list.
And for the dog park, we had situation once with Grover and I was so stressed to go back. But boyfriend tells me that dogs feed off our stress and so I try to stay calm so that he says calm. Can’t say it always works for me, but Grover holds his own.
Love LOVE that first paragraph! Totally real life, girlfriend!
And I appreciate you sharing about Grover — definitely makes me feel a little less alone in my dog fears. 🙂
Hi Melyssa! I really love this post, well done! I can totally agree with you on a few different points (not responding to whatsapp messages? thinking what’s the point of all of this? not understanding how people can feel nothing for animals? liking being alone?) Um, ya, I really connected with this post 🙂 Thanks for sharing!! xx
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Love that we can connect on all of those things! Thanks for sharing, Michelle. 🙂
I daydream a lot too. I’ve always been a dreamer. 🙂 And I like being alone too. I’m the same way, I could go days being alone and not realize it. Great post!
Love that you can relate to all those things! 🙂 I love me some dreamers.
Great post! Can really relate to some of the things you wrote.
And I actually like that this is different from your usual posts 🙂 Random thoughts are sometimes the greatest and funniest things to read.
I’m glad you like reading random thoughts! Because I like writing them 🙂
I love Yosemite! Seriously one of my top five favorite places in the world. I can’t wait to see your photos!