Since childhood, it’s been ingrained in our brains that there’s a perfect dream job out there for each of us. When we were kids, we’d passionately announce what we’d like to be — astronaut! Archaeologist! Ballerina! But at some point, our interests change and we’re less confident in answering the question, “what do you want to be when you grow up?” We’re told to follow our heart, work hard to pursue our passion and that everything will fall into place. But what if you don’t have any idea what the hell your ideal career is? *record scratch*

While everyone else is graduating, finding killer jobs and starting their way up the ladder to their dream career, it’s easy to feel insecure about the future if you’re still a little lost. You know you have a lot to offer an employer, but just haven’t figured out where your skills and interests align. This is a stressful position to be in, but not knowing what you want to do in life can actually be a blessing in disguise. Here are some reasons why it’s okay if you don’t know your dream job yet:
You have the chance to really think about your life path, rather than just your career path
Not knowing your dream job actually gives you a unique perspective on life. Instead of focusing on your career and tailoring your life around that career, you’re free to do it the other way around. Taking a step back and examining what you want out of life can help you realize what type of job will help you achieve those goals.
Do you want to live in the heart of a big city or in a remote cabin in the woods? Would you rather spend the majority of your day outside or do you like being able to work from local coffee shops? Is it more important to you to have time off to travel or a bigger paycheck for a more comfortable lifestyle? Mapping out your life can help you see where your career can fit into it. At the end of the day, your job is really just one piece of your multi-faceted life.
Take time off to explore
After university graduation it feels like everyone is ready to jump right onto the track for their career. It can be easy to feel like you’re the only one left without an offer for an internship or job. But this uncertainty about what lies ahead can actually be a good thing.
Sometimes when you throw yourself into a career, it can be pretty difficult to get out and take time off. Concentrating fully on one career path can make you subconsciously put up blinders for other opportunities that arise. Take advantage of your uncertainty. Travel. Go overseas if you can. If you don’t have enough money, find a way to spend some time abroad for free — work on an organic farm or volunteer at a nonprofit. Get out of your comfort zone. Meet people from completely different walks of life. I guarantee you’ll come out of it with a much better understanding of yourself and the world.
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You can try out different jobs
While you’re figuring out what your dream job is, you’ll need to be earning money. Chances are you’ll have to take a job that may not be your dream — heck, it might even be a nightmare! But accepting a less-than-ideal job can be enlightening in itself. Every work opportunity teaches you something and will help you whittle down what it is you’re looking for or looking to avoid in your future career.
Working in cafes and restaurants was always my go-to when I was figuring out my next step in life and needed extra money. Some of my jobs were wonderful and some were downright awful, but at each one I learned something new about myself and my hopes for my future career. I learned everything from how to tactfully handle frustrated (and hungry) customers to the fact that having quality co-workers can turn a terrible job into a fun one. Cherish the opportunity to try out different jobs — eventually you’ll find a passion that sticks.
There are many others in your position
Not knowing your dream career is far from the end of the world, but let’s face it, sometimes it can still be frustrating. The most important thing to remember is that you’re not alone. Sure, from the outside it seems like everyone has got it all figured out career-wise. But in truth, many people — in all stages of life — are still searching for their dream job. Unless you’re very lucky, it doesn’t come easy.
So when you get down on yourself — when you feel like you can’t possibly wash one more dish or spend one more day at your cubicle — remember: every work experience, no matter how unfulfilling or dissatisfying, pushes you one step closer to the career of your dreams. Keep chugging, my friend, and eventually, something will click.
Related: 5 Actionable Steps You Can Take Towards Making Your Dreams a Reality















Lord, this is exactly what I need. As a nineteen year old who’s thinking of changing her major to something I bit more tailored to my interests (but not in line with the top-of-the-line, high salary jobs…) I am struggling to figure out what to do after college. After accepting an internship (that I really enjoy!) I realize that this exact work isn’t exactly what I would want to do. And in fact, I know people much older than me that their jobs are vastly different from what they have majored in college for! Makes me feel a bit better about the uncertainty.
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Totally! Most of my friends are actually doing careers that are different from what they majored in in college! That’s great that you found an internship that you love! Try to figure out exactly what you love about it. If it’s not the type of work, perhaps its the company culture or your role in the projects. That will definitely point you in the right direction!
It’s summer break after my first year at college and I’m at home not really doing much except for personal projects while most of my friends are working or doing internships, and my parents aren’t afraid to remind me of that. The end of freshman year was more hectic than I thought it’d be so I didn’t prepare well for this summer, but I have confidence I’ll be ready next summer, or even next winter break. Dreams jobs and careers have been floating around in my head but it’s all a jumble. Thanks for your words of wisdom! -Audrey | Brunch at Audrey’s
I hate to sound like a total grandma right now, but you’re still so young, you have plenty of time to figure that shit out! My summers during university I worked in restaurants and spent my free time with friends, enjoying summer! When you have a full time job “summer time” isn’t really the same, so I say enjoy it while it lasts!
I actually find that people are more skeptical of my future when I say I know what my dream job is. The uncertainty of not knowing actually seems to have become the norm. So now I just say “oh, I’d like to work in advertising…” because that’s vague enough to be acceptable. If I say “I want to be an account manager at an advertising agency,” people just give me odd looks for having a dream haha. This is definitely an interesting topic to think and talk about.
xx, Pia
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Interesting Pia! I haven’t experienced that, although I do feel that it is becoming more accepted for young people to not know what they want to do in the future. There’s more room now for discovering who are you before choosing a career. But that’s awesome that you’re so determined!
Learning what you do and don’t like in work in various work environments is so true. After moving back home I could have gotten a job quickly but I passed it up because I promised myself I wouldn’t work in another call center environment. Keeping that promise has been tough, but it looks like its starting to pay off.
That’s great Maddisyn (what a cool name, by the way!) I’ve promised myself I’ll never work in hospitality again. Hopefully I can stick to that promise!
Great post! I’m in the never-ending process of trying to figure out my dream job and thanks to my blog, I’m finally close to having it figured out 🙂 When I was super little, I wanted to be a Paleontologist. Yup. I wanted to dig up dinosaur fossils for a living. Then I decided I wanted to work with marine mammals and went to college for marine bio. This lasted maybe a year. Fast forward 4 years and I’m now a full-time blogger, with an A.S. in Business Administration and am now a year away from completing my B.A. in Communications with a concentration in Public Relations and a minor in Social Media Marketing….that’s a mouthful haha But I hope to start a marketing and public relations company this year or next and I’m SO excited for it.
Wow, two commenters who wanted to be paleontologists! That must have been a popular choice for kids, haha! I totally get you, I changed my major in university 5 times! I could not decide! I’m still trying to figure it out! That’s great that you’re so educated. Good luck with your future company!!
Aw this is such a great article! I totally get what you are talking about. My path has been very different from what would be called traditional or popular, and I think your first point describes my situation really well. I feel like by not knowing what the hell I was going to do helped me figure out what I wanted out of life. And it’s always nice to know it’s not just me. But eventually things come together, and a really great life is made from what was once a big question mark. That’s the coolest part: to look back and think, “This time last year, I had no idea what I was doing. But look at me now!”
Happy Summer! Great post!
xx Lane
That’s awesome Lane! I’m glad everything worked out for you! I know, it’s crazy how in just a years time your life can look totally different. It’s exciting not knowing what’s waiting around the corner!
“Instead of focusing on your career and tailoring your life around that career, you’re free to do it the other way around.”
Hell yea! Thanks for this, I have been struggling a little bit since just graduating a month or two ago with what on earth to do with myself now. I have many ideas and none that seems to want to actually stick as “the only one”… so I’m dabbling!
Congrats on graduating, Katia! That’s awesome! But no worries on not knowing what you want to do, I graduated 6 years ago now and I’m still figuring it out! It’s actually been a really fun journey 🙂
I so get this! When I was little I wanted to be a Paleontologist (inspired by the first Jurassic Park? Maybe…) Now I’m all grown up and paleontology isn’t what I pursued at all. I’m a writer through-and-through but my career is in tech writing b/c it’s stable while I pursue passion writing. Maybe one day I’ll figure the whole “write for a career” thing out.
Whoa, paleontologist! That’s a pretty big dream job for a kid, you must be quite ambitious 🙂 And I understand, making a career as a writer is tough! But a lot of artists and creatives work a “normal” day job and then do their art on the side. Ain’t no shame in needing to make some money! I hope you do get to the point of having your dream career though!
I definitely needed to read this…
Hope it helped, Kendall 🙂
I’m 43 and still chasing after my dream job. *sigh*
My mom is 52, and she’s just starting her dram job. Don’t worry 🙂
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This is exactly what I need to hear today. Every once and awhile I know I’m hard on myself by not being exactly where I want to be in life, my dream career etc. But I have, as you mentioned, learned a lot from my less than ideal jobs. I’ve learned what I don’t want and I would have never known that if I never lived through it. I’m slowly finding my path and I’m sure when I look back I wouldn’t trade my specific journey for anything, hopefully 🙂
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That’s awesome Monica! Those crappy jobs definitely help narrow down what you’re not looking for. It takes time, but eventually you’ll figure out what it is you are looking for!
This is perfect for me right now. I study music, and was forced to change my major cause my professor decided I wasn’t going to make it as an opera singer. That was never my plan, I just want to be a singer so I had to suck it and change to a musicology major and keep sing as a minor. I know for a fact that I will suck as a musicologist but I have to graduate. Having a blog and a youtube channel where I can focus on the things I do enjoy helps me to deal with the fact that I have no clue what I’m going to do when I finish college. I have three years to figure that out while I study something that I’m not exactly passionate about. And you are right, it’s crazy hard.
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I totally feel ya girl, but don’t worry. So many of my friends from university are doing NOTHING related to their major. Hopefully you have the freedom to take a few elective classes, but most importantly, have fun in college! That time in your life is as much about finding out who you are as it is learning academically! Enjoy it!
I love this! It’s funny how growing up you just assume you choose a career and will love it. You barely know anything about the world then! I know I’m in my dream profession but I’m working on the dream career part still.
That’s awesome that you’ve found your dream profession, Jen! Can I ask what you do? And yes, totally agree. When you are little you really think you’ll just find a career and do that for the rest of your life, but it really doesn’t work like that!
I’m a Dietitian Christine. The current area I work in though isn’t where my passion is so I’m trying to figure out how to get into my preferred area of practice.
Growing up I had so many different ideas about my dream job – teacher (which I did for 10+ years), archeologist (still secretly want to do this – but only in Egypt) and many other things too.
I feel like I am still searching a bit as I chucked in the teaching for my move to America, and have yet to find a regular paying writing gig … fingers crossed it will happen some time soon!
Being an archeologist would be awesome!! It’s an exciting thought that even after doing one job for 10+ years (wow!) you might end up doing something totally different. Good luck with your writing, I feel ya on finding paying work, it’s tough!
I totally agree with all of these points, unless you’ve been brought up “knowing” (being told) who you are going to be and what you will do, it takes such a long time to figure out who you are inside let alone deciding what you want to spend most of your time doing. I have been stressing myself out over the past few months applying for new jobs and trying to figure out who I am, things were just not going right! I just came back from Marrakech (http://leeshloves.com/exploring-marrakech/) and I have figured out that when you are feeling really happy, confident and inspired that is when the best luck comes your way (as long as you prepare too). I got offered my dream job straight after, and although it may still not work out – it’s a step in the right direction! I think happiness and perseverance is key 😀
Sorry for the long winded comment haha loved this post, definitely relate to it!
Glad you liked the post Elisha! That’s awesome that you’ve been offered your dream job! I totally agree with you, not to sound like a total hippy, but if you stay positive the universe will help you out! You just have to believe in yourself and remember that every job is just a step to lead you to your dream career. Hope you had fun in Marrakesh, love it there!!
This resonates with me so deeply. As someone who has had many “dream jobs”, I find myself in a place where I don’t really have a dream job right now. And I’m trying to be okay with that.
I’m glad this resonated with you 🙂 The idea of a “dream job” is kind of funny, because it’s really just the dream for you! What may seem like a dream to other people, may not be the right fit for yourself. Keep trucking and I’m sure your dream job will find you 🙂
As a kid, I wanted to be an actress, but I suppose everybody does, so I dropped it at age 11 and substituted the dream for one of being a journalist. That one lasted for a long long time, but sometime at the end of high school I somehow switched to linguistics, graduated in general linguistics and am now finishing my grad school in psycholinguistics. And also realizing I don’t want to work in the field and do science, but instead go back to journalism. It’s crazy, but I want it more than anything, I’m so passionate about it and hoping someone will see that – in the meantime I blog and write for several magazines… pro bono, unfortunately, but it’s kind of a building a portfolio, right? Or so I hope.
Also, I caught myself looking for an amateur drama studio around me few months ago, and it was so funny to connect that to my first ever dream. It’s so weird how life turns out sometimes. I just hope everything will end up fine. I’m more calm than I used to be in college because I know WHAT I want to do and be, but on the other hand I’m also nervous because I’m not quite sure HOW to achieve this.
Great article, anyway, and thank you for sharing. It’s easy to feel like everyone else has their shit together sometimes.
Sometimes I feel I’m going crazy – I have such high hopes and expectations from everything that I’m afraid I’m not going to be successful at anything until I know I really wanna do it 🙁
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The first thing I did when I finished the article was “oh I am so gonna do this for my blog, from my perspective, it will be good for me to come to terms with certain stuff and to grow a bit on a personal plain”. I wrote it up in my little planner and then it hit me – “does this apply to 32yearolds?” I guess not. I guess this is a post writen for people “fresh” out of college, to give them a ray of hope and strength to go on despite all the odds. I wish I had this kinds of information 10 year ago. Even 5 years ago would still kind of be OK. Now I feel sentenced to reap what I haven`t sown (I hope i got this right, I am not a native speaker). But then, I come across so many inspiring and powerful ladies that have turned their lives around at even “older” age than me and I have hope again. I feel energized, motivated and alive. And I am grateful. Thank you universe for showing me that there is a way. But way to where? I see a possibility but I am still stuck at that (eternal it would seem) question – what to to? What is my dream job? Or rather what is it called – that omnibus of my deepest desires and interests combined with those few talents people claim I have. Where and how to utilize them and make it a job. They are made of dreams already 🙂
This is all so true! I’ve learnt some great things from jobs that were less than amazing: I never want to do event management, for example (I’m just no good at it) and I’ve picked up a lot of tips on how not to manage people (along with some tips on how to lead them instead from better bosses).
Sometimes, however, I think we actually DO have a dream job but fear is keeping us back from even admitting it. I’ve always wanted to make a living as a writer, but well-meaning people kept telling me it wasn’t going to pay my way and I should have a back-up so I can ensure the bills are paid. Not that there’s anything wrong with people saying that! It IS important to make sure we can pay bills and eat, but I feel this sort of fear makes it easy to give up dream jobs or pretend we don’t even have a dream job in the first place. That’s what I’ve been doing, anyway! And thanks to blogs such as The Nectar Collective, I’m picking up the skills and confidence to get on with having that dream job after all.
Oh, to have had the luxury of trying to decide what my “dream job” was. Most of us merely end up doing what we need to do to survive, hoping that it doesn’t suck too much and the bills are paid and that we don’t get made redundant, get sick, or face unexpected caregiver responsibilities. In other words, we end up facing real life.
Remember to feel grateful that you are privileged enough to have problems like this right now, while traveling the world. One day you may (or probably will) not…
Thanks for your insight. Of course, real life and real problems will always be there and this post will not resonate with every single person who reads it. But I believe the main message being shared is to try new things and not give up on a better future, and I believe that’s something everyone can do at their own pace 🙂
It won’t resonate with most people. Just a tiny privileged minority. Unfortunately the blogosphere tends to be dominated by them, drowning out the voices that should be heard. But they’re too busy trying to pay the bills.
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