
Having a bad day? A bad week? Oh girl, we’ve ALL been there. Luckily, there are some quick solutions to help you beat any stress, anxiety, and fear you’re feeling. Today, I’m sharing five ways to feel better today, so you can get on with yo’ bad self.
Organize something.
Feeling worried, stressed, or depressed has a way of making us feel like we’re no longer in control. All of a sudden, our insides feel like a mess. Many of our problems are escalated “in the moment,” meaning that if we give them some time to settle, they actually don’t feel so awful anymore. Instead of dwelling, try organizing. Maybe your closet could use some TLC. Or that IKEA bookshelf you’ve put off building for 2 months could spring to life. Organizing your home won’t make your problems go away, but it will give your mind something else to focus on while you’re healing. It will also put you back in control, so that you feel less vulnerable.
Go for a walk outside.
Being in nature makes you feel good. It’s science, actually. A recent study by the University of Essex showed that 71% of research participants felt less depressed after taking a walk in nature. 71%!! And according to Medical Daily, “other studies have shown that reconnecting with green can help lift depression, improve energy, and boost overall well-being and mental health.” Dudes. If you’re having a bad day, use half of your lunch break to take a walk at a nearby park. Focus on how incredible nature is. You’ll feel good. Promise.
Take a yoga class. Or any group exercise class, really.
You might have noticed that I’m a new yoga addict, and part of the reason I love it so much is that it often has mental benefits as well as physical. Yoga reminds me to be grateful and live in the moment, rather than focus on past failures or future worries. If yoga isn’t your thing, try another group exercise class, like spinning or barre. I find that working out in a group — even a group of strangers — has the profound effect of making you feel connected to the people around you. It’s hard to feel totally awful when you’re having a shared (and sweaty!) experience with 20 other people. And exercising with a teacher is great, because you’re so focused on the tasks at hand that you have little time to think of anything that’s weighing on your mind. You’ll leave the class feeling energetic and refreshed.
Listen to happy music.
Feeling bad? This ain’t the time to bust out your emo high school mix CD. Put on something upbeat. Studies actually show that listening to music affects your mood, so as the saying goes, “fake it ’til you make it.” You might not feel like singing along to Taylor Swift’s latest pop album, but it could improve how you’re feeling. Need some inspiration? Check out this upbeat playlist.
Focus on the present moment.
Almost everything we feel crummy about is either something that happened in the past or something that may or may not happen in the future. But right now? Right now is all good, yo. The only thing that’s making you feel bad in this moment is the fact that you’re thinking about the past or the future, rather than the right now. If something is weighing on your mind, it can be difficult to flush it out. Try this breathing exercise: take a deep breath in for four seconds. Hold it in for four seconds. Breathe out for four seconds. Hold your breath there for four seconds. Do this for a couple minutes and you’ll start to feel a shift in your anxiety and stress. As you’re breathing, bring yourself to the present moment. Remember that any bad that has happened has already happened in the past. It’s over, and you’ll get through it. And anything you’re worrying about in the future hasn’t occurred yet. Worrying about it only extends your pain. Instead, let it go. If things do eventually go badly, you’ll fight through them. You always do.
What makes you feel good when you’re having a bad day?
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Great post! These are some awesome tips.
Thank you! Glad you liked it 🙂
Going outside and yoga are amazing ways to feel better. And I totally agree with happy music. So I basically agree with you in every way. Great tips!
haha glad you agree Lee! 🙂
These are great tips. I really need to learn how to be more present in the moment. I also think I should probably get back to exercising. I can blame it on work or the weather, but right now, I think that’s the root of all of my problems.
Ahh I need to be more present too! And your comment definitely sparked an idea in me — thank you for that! 🙂
I always try to do something like organize, because like you said, whatever is happening usually doesn’t feel so bad if I have some time to process it, but I’m a worrier so I have to get my mind off of it. I’ve also found that watching TV–while not as productive–is usually a way to get my mind off of something and sometimes I just need the downtime. Also, sometimes I like to dwell on whatever is making me upset. I don’t let myself dwell for long and I’m always very conscious that I’m allowing myself to dwell on the feelings, but in a way I need to face them for a period of time so that I can process them. After I give myself an afternoon to live with the feelings, they tend to just go away on their own.
Ahh that is wonderful, Crystal! I love that you mentioned that you take intentional time to dwell on things. I think that’s a beautiful and productive step in getting over something. Pushing our feelings aside only works when we’ve given ourselves closure on something and we can only reach that state when we’ve taken time to understand it. Thank you for that reminder!
Thanks for this post… Perfect timing as I just took a final exam and need to relieve some stress!!
xo, cassie
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Well congrats on finishing your exam! There’s something to feel good about 🙂
I love this list! I never consciously thought about it, but organizing really helps me! It does make you feel like you’re in control and productive. Also, being outside in nature for a few minutes is something I need to try. It’s also a great excuse to get some fresh air and take your dog outside too (:
Totally! My dog agrees 🙂
needed this today… and so does my closet 🙂
Glad to help you and your closet, Jamie. 🙂 (My closet needed it and got it a few days ago! ;))
love it! I always do number #1, need to feel im in control of something so I wouldn’t break apart.. thanks for sharing!
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Glad to help, Nathalia 🙂
Love this article! For me, shopping and ice cream usually does the trick 🙂
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hehe those are awesome things! 🙂
Wow, wow, wow! I love all of these tips. They are certainly going to come in handy for those down days. I just got back into yoga this week! I’m so excited about it! And that breathing exercise sounds perfect, Mel! Thanks so much for sharing these! 🙂
So glad you like them, Gina!! The breathing exercise is something I recently started doing and it helps me when I’m feeling stressed or anxious! And YAY for getting back into yoga! That’s awesome!
Hi Mel ♥!
Whenever I’m having a bad day I also like to listen happy or calm music; sometimes I like to draw to relax myself.
Thanks for this lovely post 😀
Drawing sounds like a great idea, Cori! 🙂
Organizing makes me feel better! Decluttering the physical helps me declutter the mental 🙂 I also sometimes like to sleep it off 🙂 -Audrey | Brunch at Audrey’s
Both of those are great ideas, Audrey. Amazing how much sleep can help calm our feelings.
Once again, a great article! I feel happy already 😉
Aw yay that makes me happy, Mary!!
Loved this!! I always do the second one, after going for a walk i feel better and more relaxed 🙂
Seriously! Glad you agree 🙂
Such a fantastic post 🙂 Being around nature always makes me feel calmer and happier, it’s so important for me!
I couldn’t agree more!
Hi. I’ve discovered your blog recently and i’m loving it:)
Hi Anita! That is so sweet of you! Very glad to have you here! 🙂
Such cute ideas, i adore yoga, it makes me feel relaxed and calm and enables me to have some me-time ♡
Couldn’t agree more, Bell!
love this! I’ve heard that we often spend money when we’re sad because we are just craving a sense of control– and buying new things gives us that “control”. So I love the idea of organizing something; it gives you back that sense of control in your life, so hopefully you don’t go on a target binge just because you’re not having a good day!
Couldn’t have said it better myself, Ashley! And your reasoning for splurging when you’re sad makes so much sense!
It sounds silly, but I always feel better after painting my nails… I don’t know why, but it makes me feel so much more ‘together’. I guess maybe it accomplishes the same thing as organizing something!
Ohh I love that idea, Lisa! I think you’re right about how it relates to organizing. Maybe also the fact that you allowed yourself some “me” time could put someone in a good mood. 🙂
For me it’s as simple as having a movie marathon(you can’t go wrong with Disney!) in my pjs and sipping some green tea! It allows me to forget my worries for a couple of hours and I immediately feel 100x better 🙂
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Ahh that is an awesome idea! I feel like movie binges (especially Disney movies!!) are kind of like listening to happy music. It takes you to another (happier!) world. 🙂
Seriously though, yoga is the cure to all evil and stress in the world. We recently became super active in it (in the process of writing our own yoga themed blog posts) and I have never felt better in my life. Great post!
That is amazing to hear! I’ve recently gotten pretty active with it, too, and totally agree!
Love this, some encouraging points to remember! Walks definitely help, the fresh air is so calming and just makes you feel better instantly! I remember I used to laugh when my dad said he went for a walk in the Botanic Gardens during his lunch break, but I can totally see why now. And yes, my wardrobe needs some TLC pronto.
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Ahh I love that your dad went for walks on his lunch break! Sounds so peaceful and happy. 🙂
Getting organised is totally what does it for me. If my surroundings are in a mess, my head is in a mess. Sometimes it just takes sorting out your work space, your living room, or changing your bed linen to make everything feel that little bit better. A walk is good too. I’ve been stuck with a teething baby all day so my husband came home early from work so we could take a 30 minute walk before it got dark. It was just the ticket.
I love that! I think taking a walk with your partner can be so soothing and a great bonding experience. 🙂
These are all great and effective tools for de-stressing! I also love taking time to make myself a warm or cool beverage (depending on the season). Sometimes taking a few minutes to steep a cup of tea is all I need to remind myself to breath deep and relax. Peppermint tea is also supposed to be particularly helpful in stress relief.
I love that, Stacia! Another commenter mentioned that painting her nails makes her feel good. I think finding small, meaningful ways to pamper ourselves (like making a cup of tea!) can be so useful in feeling better. 🙂
Painting my nails used to be a big one for me. One of my friends used to tease me in college that she could always tell how bad my week was going by keeping track of how many different times I painted my nails. haha. I find that the little ways that help me relax ebb and flow as my seasons of life change, too.
I really love these tips! Since I am still in high school life can get too much and I am terrible at destressing so this is probably a post I am going to go back to very often. Love the positivity of your blog 🙂
Have a nice day!
x I
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Thanks for being here, Isabel! High school was one of my lowest points in life — I had some pretty depressed/stressed periods, but I definitely think these tips would have helped me back then. 🙂
Such a great reminder, I find organising something, or getting outside really help!
Same here! 🙂
Music always does the trick! #happythoughts
Totally. 🙂
such good tips 🙂 thank you, we all need to be better on this.
Thanks Annette! I agree. 🙂
I love the tip about organizing something. Even if it’s small, it always helps me focus on just that task and makes me feel like I accomplished something.
Yes!! I totally agree, Kathleen.
Really good tips! Yoga always helps me and also taking a shower, it’s like ‘let the rain wash away all the pain of yesterday’ 🙂
Ahh yes! Showers are incredible. 🙂 Sometimes I take baths too — love those!
Great tips, thanks!!
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Thank YOU for reading! 🙂
Ha ha organizing things always make me feel better when I’m having a bad day! I think it works so well because not only are you clearing things out, but it gives you something that you control even if you can’t control the problem or difficulties you are facing.
I completely agree! 🙂
Every time you change your blog design I fall in love all over again! Love the tips too 🙂
Aww you’re too sweet, Asia! Thank you!
I have always used music as the best anti-depressant and “mood lifter” It soothes and heals me fast
Totally agree! 🙂
beautiful post thank you – like the breathing exercise
Thank you Sara! 🙂 That exercise always works for me. 🙂
I love how you have beautifully put everything together. Yes, staying positive takes a bit of an initiation. But its totally worth it
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That makes me super happy, Carol!! 🙂
I love the idea of taking a yoga class. Yoga always makes me feel a million times better!
This is a great post. My favorite is the upbeat music. Music can really change your mood.
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That’s a great strategy, Brooklyn! 🙂
Yes! Anytime I organize anything, I feel like I bettered my space productively, but it also helps me clear my mind and re-focus on the next task!
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I totally agree, Erica! Thanks for chimin’ in. 🙂
These are very useful tips! Thank you for sharing, Melyssa. 🙂
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Yay! I’m so glad you like these tips, Lucie 🙂